or be Bounced?
The most important thing in life is not the daily ups and downs we experience, but rather our reaction to those events. Our capacity to Bounce back from difficult situations determines our direction and destiny.
To be “Bounced” can also have another meaning. The term is also used to signify rejection or failure. At first glance, it appears the meanings of the word Bounce are incongruent. When we take a closer look we actually see they are very much in harmony.
Those who are most successful in life and achieve that which many only dream about are typically the people who effectively deal with rejection and failure. The more they are “Bounced”, the stronger they become. They recuperate and Bounce back from being “Bounced” because of a high degree of confidence and tremendous conviction in their abilities.
To be a better Bouncer there are several factors to take into account. Where we happen to be in our particular cycle is one of the most crucial to consider. Sometimes we are up and sometimes we are down. If we are at the bottom of a Bounce, our capacity to look at things in a positive light and come out fighting is more complicated.
If we are on top of the world and feeling wonderful, our capacity to Bounce back is enhanced.
One of the biggest misconceptions of motivation is that we can feel up and motivated all of the time. There are times when we feel down and there is nothing anyone or anything can do to make us Bounce back at that particular moment. Nor should we expect that we should never feel down. If we never know that feeling of misery and misfortune, we can never truly experience the exhilaration and excitement of life.
There is a time for everything and each and every instant has a reason for being. When we feel down and out instead of getting upset with ourselves or with those who want us to miraculously feel up and motivated, we can instead say:
“Don’t bug me, I am in a bottom of a Bounce, but I will be back!”
Being congruent and in harmony with our emotions is perhaps one of the most difficult things we can do. We are taught from a very young age that it isn’t always wise or desirable to show what we feel. Instead we often repress feelings which elicit extreme emotions in the positive and the negative.
When we are down, it’s ok to be down as long as we know we can and will Bounce back. When we are up and motivated, we should bathe in the beauty of the moment. At the same time, it is realistic to accept that there will be a time when the cycle changes and thus prepare to Bounce back when we feel we are in the bottom of a Bounce.
Those who Bounce best assure that the agony of defeat will time and again lead to the thrill of victory.
It's the Bounce that Counts!
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Very old lady looked in the mirror one morning. She had three remaining strands of hair on her head, and being a positive soul, she said, "I think I'll braid my hair today." So she braided her three hair, and she had a great day.
Some days later, looking in the mirror one morning, preparing for her day, she saw that she had only two strands of hair remaining. "Hmm, two strands of hair... I fancy a center parting today." She duly parted it, and as ever, she had a great day.
A week or so later, she saw that she had just one hair left on her head. "One hair huh...," she mused, "I know a pony-tail will be perfect." And again she had a great day.
The next morning she looked in the mirror. She was completely bald.
"Finally bald huh," she said to herself, "How wonderful! I won't have to waste time doing my hair any more...”
Moral of the story-
We may face different kinds of incidences in life. It’s our insight whether we perceive it positively or negatively.
Life is your own battle of field. Your life today is the result of your approach, mind sets, and choices in the history while your life tomorrow will be the outcome of the attitudes and choices you make today! So it’s important for you think and behave positively. Try to find out both sides of the coins.
Positive Attitude: Just Another Way Of Thinking?
Practical ways and suggestions to make things better, faster, more positive, by being optimistic, changing your outlook on life and motivate self and others to make the most of life, opportunity, embrace chance, change, process and outcome. Pro-actively, hands-on and first-hand opt to do something, everything a little differently from now on.
Imagine and think the impossible, what you really want, claim it into reality, believe that it will be so and it will most likely be and happen that way. That is the so-called law of attraction. It very much reminds us of a biblical quote and reference, ask and it shall be given unto you, seek and ye shall find… sound familiar, knock and the door shall be opened unto you.
Then ask and answer this question and musing for yourself. How to you see and think about yourself, a success, a failure, disappointment, achiever? How do others see you? Is there a discrepancy between these two perspectives and why? How can you change matters, starting now? Change your thought, patterns, habits and self-talk that is mainly negative, into more positive thoughts, no matter how hard that might be for your inner skeptic and critic to do! See yourself as succeeding and having anything and everything you hope and dream of and then will it into being.
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Innovation Tools magazine wrote a fascinating article on how to create and manage a corporate culture of innovation.
They brought a distinguished panel of experts together to look at the essential elements of an innovation culture. They all had the following common points in their talks:
Leading by example
Allowing room for experimenting
Having the right mix of people
Reinforcing the right behavior
Creating the stories
You will have to read the entire article at http://www.innovationtools.com/Community/PanelDetails.asp?a=338
to get all the detail. I love reading this stuff but doubt that this is practiced in a majority of the work places, large or small. Just ask a few friends how they like their jobs. Most don't. Is that due to the lack of freedom to be create and the pressure to conform and maintain the status quo?
The article goes on to talk a lot about who is rewarded for what types of behaviors. The bottom line is that most organizations do NOT reward the innovators. This is due to fear of failure.
Look at the points again. They are big tasks each and every one. Of course you have to have all the points, at some level, to be a true innovation culture. Some orgs are going to be better at one point than others. Personally, I am working on the last one: "creating stories" into my work. A simple way to implement this is to start your staff meetings off with giving "Kudos" or stories about who staff have noticed being innovative in the workplace. This has to refer to more than just doing what is in the job description. It should be outside that box. Who has gone beyond or above the call of duty to help someone solve a problem or give extra on a task. People are more apt to talk about others than themselves and so stimulates conversation. This also rewards folks in a nonmonetary way (what we assume is the only way to reward) that creates a "culture" of innovation. IT also teaches others how to be more innovative that doesn't cost thousand of dollars in outside creative consultants. You can imagine what the ROI on this type of conversation can have, can't you?
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A well known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a 500 dollars. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like to take these 500 dollars?"
Hands started going up.
He said, "I am going to give 500 dollars to one of you but first, let me do this." He proceeded to crumple the 500 dollars up.
He then asked, "Who still wants it?"
Still the hands were up in the air.
"Well," he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe.
He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty. "Now who still wants it?" Still the hands went into the air.
"My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth 500 dollars. Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way.
We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. You are special
Don't ever forget it!
Moral of the story - Try to understand your value. Try to find out your strengths. If you are not going to respect yourself no one is going to respect you.
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Years ago, a farmer owned land along the Atlantic seacoast. He constantly advertised for hired hands. Most people were reluctant to work on farms along the Atlantic. They dreaded the awful storms that raged across the Atlantic, wreaking havoc on the buildings and crops. As the farmer interviewed applicants for the job, he received a steady stream of refusals.
Finally, a short, thin man, well past middle age, approached the farmer. "Are you a good farm hand?" the farmer asked him. "Well, I can sleep when the wind blows," answered the little man.
Although puzzled by this answer, the farmer, desperate for help, Hired him. The little man worked well around the farm, busy from dawn to dusk, and the farmer felt satisfied with the man's work. Then one night the wind howled loudly in from offshore. Jumping out of bed, the farmer grabbed a lantern and rushed next door to the hired hand's sleeping quarters. He shook the little man and yelled, "Get up! A storm is coming! Tie things down before they blow away!" The little man rolled over in bed and said firmly, "No sir. I told you, I can sleep when the wind blows."
Enraged by the response, the farmer was tempted to fire him on the spot. Instead, he hurried outside to prepare for the storm. To his amazement, he discovered that all of the haystacks had been covered with tarpaulins. The cows were in the barn, the chickens were in the coops, and the doors were barred. The shutters were tightly secured. Everything was tied down.
Nothing could blow away. The farmer then understood what his hired hand meant, so he returned to his bed to also sleep while the wind blew.
When you're prepared, spiritually, mentally, and physically, you have nothing to fear. Can you sleep when the wind blows through your life?
A boat docked in a tiny Mexican village. An American tourist complimented the Mexican fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked “How long it took him to catch them?”"Not very long," answered the Mexican.
"But then, why didn't you stay out longer and catch more?" asked the American. The Mexican explained that his small catch was sufficient to meet his needs and those of his family.
The American asked, "But what do you do with the rest of your time?"
"I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, and take a siesta with my wife. In the evenings, I go into the village to see my friends, play the guitar, and sing a few songs... I have a full life."
The American interrupted, "I have an MBA from Harvard, and I can help you! You should start by fishing longer every day. You can then sell the extra fish you catch. With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat."
"And after that?" asked the Mexican. “With the extra money the larger boat will bring, you can buy a second one and a third one and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers. Instead of selling your fish to a middle man, you can then negotiate directly with the processing plants and maybe even open your own plant. You can then leave this little village and move to Mexico City, Los Angeles, or even New York City! From there you can direct your huge new enterprise." "How long would that take?" asked the Mexican.
"Twenty, perhaps twenty-five years," replied the American. "And after that?" Well, my friend, that's when it gets really interesting," answered the American, laughing. "When your business gets really big, you can cart Selling stocks and make millions!"
“Millions? Really? And after that?" said the Mexican. "After that you'll be able to retire, live in a tiny village near the coast, sleep late, play with your children, catch a few fish, take a siesta with your wife and spend your evenings doing what you like and enjoying your friends."
"With all due respect sir, but that's exactly what I am doing now. So what’s the point wasting twenty-five years?" asked the Mexican.
And the moral is: Know where you're going in life...you may already be there.